“I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the growth.” 1 Corinthians 3:6 (ESV) You don’t need the perfect speech. You don’t need the right verse memorized or the ideal setting lined up. You just have to say the one thing….
One Word
Intention Does Not Equal Presence
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12 (ESV) Steve, 46, is not a neglectful son. He would push back hard on anyone…
You Don’t Get to Measure Your Own Fruit
GROW DEEP. LIVE FULL. Hey family. If you made it through this week honestly, you probably landed somewhere uncomfortable. You saw Derek’s lunch and recognized a meeting you’ve been in. You watched Marcus in the front seat and thought of…
Generational Coaching
COACH. NOT COP. There is a moment in parenting a teenager when everything you thought you believed about discipline gets tested. Not by a small infraction. By a real lie. A deliberate one. The kind where your kid looked you…
Using the Bible as a Hammer
USING THE BIBLE AS A HAMMER There is a particularly dangerous version of the accidental Pharisee that shows up inside Christian marriages. He loves his wife. He is serious about God’s Word. He has done the reading, attended the conferences,…
Revisiting Cop vs. Coach (Tone and Posture)
THE 2:30AM CALL There is a moment every father secretly hopes for and never talks about. It’s 2:30 in the morning. Your kid is somewhere they probably shouldn’t be. Things have gone sideways. And instead of figuring out how to…
The Spirit Earns the Right to Speak
THE GUY NOBODY EATS LUNCH WITH There is a version of Derek at almost every church in America. He’s the guy who got serious about his faith, really serious, and now everyone in his orbit knows it. He’s got the…
Plant Something Worth Growing
Hey family, If you made it through this week being mindful of every word you spoke, same. I made it about halfway through Monday before I said something at home I immediately wished I could take back. Here is what…
Say It Anyway. Having the Conversation the Flesh Avoids
“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” Psalm 19:14 (ESV) Psalm 19 ends with a prayer, not a strategy, not a five-step plan….
What’s Buried at the Bottom. Words and the Heart Behind Them.
“For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” Matthew 12:34b (ESV) When you restock a fruit display you pull everything out first, because the fruit at the very bottom has usually gone bad. And rotten fruit does…